The Art of Encouragement: The ‘Forceful’ Way
Encouragement can be as soft and tender or as bold and intense as you and your feedee desire. While gentle encouragement often focuses on making a feedee feel nurtured and adored, more intense styles of encouragement dive into a more thrilling power dynamic for the both of you, where indulgence and growth take on a life of their own. With mutual consent and trust, this kind of encouragement can create an exciting atmosphere where a feedee’s transformation feels inevitable and unstoppable.
The Appeal of Bold, Dominant Encouragement
For many feedees, the idea of fully surrendering control can be really exciting. Their habits and weight gain aren’t just personal choices; they’re driven and encouraged by their feeder’s desires. There’s a heightened sense of permission to indulge without restraint, guided by the feeder’s presence and authority. As a feeder, fostering this feeling of powerlessness within a safe, consensual space often can allow your feedee to embrace indulgence more deeply than they might on their own. It creates a sense of ownership that goes beyond simple encouragement. For some of them, it’s thrilling to feel as though their body isn’t just their own, it belongs to you (their feeder), with every ounce of gain happening to satisfy your plans for them. This feeling of being “owned” can strengthen the connection and dependency between you and your feedee, making each moment feel more meaningful and fulfilling.
The Power of Surrender
For feedees who crave complete surrender, there’s a deep sense of freedom in letting go of the reins and allowing their feeder to take charge. This style can involve daily rituals, set routines, or commands that take the feedee out of the decision-making process. Some simply take comfort in being mindless, lazy feedees, while others experience arousal at the idea of becoming a brainless, dumbed-down version of themselves; a living “no thoughts, head empty” meme. The feeder becomes the driving force, making indulgence feel like something the feedee “must” do, both for themselves and their partner’s satisfaction, and therefore they don’t have to think very hard about it. This dynamic allows them to feel cherished and desired on a different level, while also experiencing the thrill of dependency.
The Power of…Power
For feeders, the appeal of a forceful or intense encouragement style lies in the power and control it offers. If you find yourself drawn to it, it’s likely because the dynamic allows you to fully guide and shape a feedee's experience, turning every indulgence into an act of dominance and pleasure. The sense of ownership over your feedee’s growth can be deeply satisfying, as it taps into the lust for control, influence, and the ability to inspire transformation. Watching your feedee surrender to your commands, whether it’s through pushing boundaries or guiding them to indulge, creates an erotic thrill that reinforces your authority and deepens the connection. It’s not just about feeding; it’s about asserting dominance in a way that’s both exciting and intimate, making the process of encouragement feel like a shared journey of power, surrender, and mutual satisfaction.
Strategies for Forceful Encouragement
Once you and your tubby partner fully understand what draws each of you to a forceful encouragement style, various techniques can bring your fantasies to life. The following strategies vary in intensity, and it’s important to pick and choose among them based on your and your feedee’s comfort levels, creating a unique journey that encapsulates both of your wishes or desires. You can also come up with new ones, this is not an exhaustive list! Spend some time with your feedee discussing their hedonistic dreams and fantasies to develop new, fun, stirring ideas for you to engage in.
Removing Their Choice
Taking away a feedee’s ability to make choices around food and habits can create a delicious sense of powerlessness that feels both riveting and reassuring. You as a feeder can control every detail of your feedee’s eating habits, leaving them with no other option than to surrender. One of the most common ways to do this is through controlling portions and meals. When you decide what, when, and how much your feedee eats, it shifts the power dynamic, framing overeating as something that “happens to” your feedee, not something they actively do. This technique can foster a heightened sense of dependency, as they no longer have the option to say “no.” You can do this through deciding their schedule, where you determine all of their meals, snacks, and feeding times. This makes it clear that their day—and, in a sense, their purpose—is organized around feeding, an approach that’s ideal for feedees who crave the structure and reassurance that comes with being led. You can even go a bit further by enforcing restrictions on their movement. Reducing your feedee’s activity level, especially after a big meal, can emphasize that their body’s purpose is to rest, digest, and grow, reinforcing a feeling of dependency.
Examples:
“You’ll keep eating until I say otherwise. I know exactly what you need to grow for me.”
“From now on, you’ll eat every two hours, no exceptions. You need to get fatter.”
“No moving around after this meal, okay? I want you soft and relaxed, letting every bite go right to your belly.”
Sexual Dominance
Merging sexual dynamics with encouragement brings a heightened level of intimacy into your and your feedee’s relationship. Their growth becomes intertwined with your physical desire, creating a sensation that each bite and pound is specifically for their feeder’s pleasure. By infusing touch and sensual words into feeding sessions, you can reinforce the idea that your feedee’s body is entirely for your enjoyment. Instructing a feedee on how to position themselves or telling them how to please you can highlight a feeder’s authority, creating an obedient dynamic that can feel intensely thrilling for both of you. Many submissive feedees also love being “commanded” as to when and where sex will happen, often taking more pleasure at having to do so at risky or spontaneous times. And it doesn't only have to be about sex! Forcing your feedee to overeat at inconvenient moments, like at work or with friends, can be just as stimulating and is a great way to assert your dominance even when you’re not around to directly or physically encourage them.
Examples:
“You’re mine to fill, inch by inch, exactly the way I want. Every bite is for my pleasure.”
“Sit right here and let me admire every inch of you. I want to see exactly what my influence has done to you.”
“Don’t you dare try and pleasure yourself, not until I say so.”
Humiliation and Embarrassment Play
Some feedees enjoy feeling out of control, and light humiliation can heighten the intensity of encouragement. This technique often centers on acknowledging their body changes in ways that make them feel both vulnerable and desired. You can highlight specific areas that have grown, or point out how much more your feedee has to gain. Playful teasing about their size can add to the feeling of surrender, and walks the line between praise and ridicule, creating a mix of embarrassment and pleasure.
More than words, putting a feedee in clothes they’ve outgrown can also emphasize how much they’ve changed, showing that their growth is not just tangible but noticeable. And if you’re both comfortable with going a bit further, public teasing and embarrassment can be particularly arousing. For a feedee, knowing that others are noticing their gain adds an edge of public vulnerability that they’re attracted to. Meanwhile, for feeders, having others notice their feedee’s gain serves as a sort of praise for their handiwork, even if the comments are somewhat negative.
Examples:
“Look at that belly! You’re getting so fat and soft...I knew you couldn’t resist.”
“Didn’t that shirt used to fit? You’re getting too big for all of it, aren’t you?”
“People must be noticing how well-fed you look lately. I bet they’re impressed with how much you’ve grown.”
Blackmail and Psychological Control
For feedees partial to more intense dynamics, adding an element of psychological ownership can make the process feel even more unavoidable. This style of encouragement uses subtle threats or rewards to increase their dependency and emphasize that their feeder controls their growth. One way to do this is by holding food or rewards “hostage.” You can make rewards conditional, creating a sense that your partner’s indulgence depends on following your commands. You can also frame their feeding as a duty, reinforcing a power dynamic where their transformation feels obligatory, adding to the sense that they have no choice but to grow or do as you say.
For even more psychological surrender, you can subtly (or boldly) imply that they must meet certain expectations or face consequences, adding a layer of urgency and commitment. This can take the form of blackmail, a common fantasy for a lot of feedees. Threatening to reveal their secrets (feedism related or not) to friends, family, coworkers, or anyone else that may judge them is not only arousing for them, but further cements their lack of control in the matter. You, the feeder, have taken it by force and they “have no choice” but to feed and fatten for you.
Examples:
“If you can’t finish this, there’ll be no treats later. You’re growing for me, and I expect you to keep up.”
“You promised to get to 300 pounds for me, and I know you won’t let me down, right?”
“I swear, piggy, if you don't meet your weight goal this month I’ll tell everyone you know about your fat little secret.”
Establishing Ownership and Dependency
Deepening the feeling of ownership and dependency for your feedee transforms encouragement into something that feels like a lifestyle shift, where every fattening choice is for a feeder’s approval and satisfaction. This often starts with creating physical routines of dependency. Regular feeding sessions, specific times for indulgence, or small rituals that reinforce dependency can make the feedee feel that their choices are out of their hands. In addition, it helps to make their growth central to your relationship. By making your feedee’s gain the core of your connection, you reinforce the idea that they exist to indulge and grow, merging their purpose and pleasure as one.
Examples:
“Every night, you’re going to let me hand feed you dessert, so you’ll always know who’s in control.”
“Your purpose is to grow for me, and you’re doing such a good job of fulfilling it.”
Secret Feeding and Manipulation
In this strategy, a feeder quietly influences their feedee’s intake without their knowledge, slowly pushing them towards indulgence and growth under the radar. You may secretly slip extra food or fattening ingredients into your feedee's meals, subtly increase portion sizes, or encourage them to snack more frequently, all while maintaining the appearance of subtle care rather than overt control. This can be done through means other than food or eating as well, such as distracting a feedee from their gain, discouraging physical activity and trips to the gym, or simply hyping up their confidence or making your attraction to them obvious. This covert manipulation adds an enticing element of surprise, as the feedee might not realize the extent to which they’re being guided into indulgence, making weight gain or cravings feel like a natural, inevitable outcome rather than a direct result of intention. If confronted, a feeder will likely deny any involvement, further heightening the deception. But hinting at a feedee’s gain in this dynamic can also be fun, playing on and acknowledging the feedee's growing cravings without them fully understanding where it’s coming from.
The appeal of secret feeding often lies in the feeling of power that comes from hidden influence. As a feeder, you may gain satisfaction from the knowledge that you’re shaping your feedee’s transformation without them fully understanding the role you’re playing. This method allows for a slow, tantalizing buildup, where their body changes incrementally and your control over the process is only fully realized over time. The psychological component of this type of encouragement is particularly immense, as there's an erotic thrill in watching a feedee unknowingly succumb to manipulation, feeling both protective and possessive over their growth as it unfolds. The secrecy adds a forbidden edge, making the experience feel more intense and loaded with desire, turning the act of feeding into a quiet but powerful tool of dominance.
Examples:
“I thought you could use a little more energy today, so I made your shake extra rich for you.”
“Come on, you can skip the gym today. You’ve been working so hard!”
“Hmm, I’m not sure why your jeans are so tight. Maybe I shrunk them in the wash? My bad.”
Language and Tone
In forceful encouragement, language and tone are everything when bringing fantasies to life. The words a feeder uses, combined with their tone, can demonstrate power, dominance, and control, amplifying a feedee's sense of surrender. Every choice of phrasing, tone, and emphasis can shape the atmosphere of each interaction, transforming a simple encouragement into an unforgettable moment. Language becomes a means to create anticipation, reinforce control, and validate the feedee’s journey of obedience and growth.
A bold, commanding tone immediately establishes authority, signaling to your feedee that you are firmly in control. Words can be direct and assertive, using statements rather than questions to convey that your feedee’s role is to follow and obey without hesitation. Phrases like, “You’re going to finish every last bite,” or “From now on, you’ll gain the way I want,” reinforce a sense of inevitability. This type of language makes your feedee feel that they’re no longer in charge of their choices, they’re simply fulfilling your desires.
Additionally, language can be used to emphasize ownership and pride in a feedee’s transformation. You can do this by complimenting specific aspects of their growth and using possessive language like “my big belly,” “my soft feedee,” or “our growing appetite.” This technique can turn simple compliments into affirmations of the feedee’s new role, making each inch they gain feel more meaningful and valued. You can also simply remind them that they're yours at every opportunity. The phrase “you’re mine” goes a long way.
Beyond tone and phrasing, descriptive language also enhances the sensory experience, making each moment feel more vivid and real. Descriptions of their size, softness, or even struggles to keep up with your expectations can bring out feelings of embarrassment, pride, and excitement, so choose based on what your feedee positively responds to. Expressing desire visually, such as emphasizing how you admire their gain, how much bigger they’re becoming, or how irresistible they look now, can amplify the erotic thrill of the journey. Statements like, “I want you so much bigger,” or “Look at how well you’re filling out just for me,” bring focus to their physical changes while encouraging them to let you guide them even more.
Consent and Boundaries
While forceful encouragement and dominant dynamics can be exciting, consent and boundaries are essential to ensure that both feeder and feedee feel safe, comfortable, and fully engaged. Consent isn’t just a one-time discussion; it’s an ongoing conversation that respects both partners’ needs and establishes the rules for their shared experience. Before incorporating intense encouragement strategies, both partners should communicate openly about their limits, desires, and expectations. Knowing each other’s hard and soft boundaries allows you as a feeder to confidently engage in bolder methods without overstepping, and it reassures the feedee that they can experience total surrender without fear or discomfort.
For this dynamic to work, both you should regularly check in and be open to adjusting their boundaries as the relationship evolves. This could involve asking your feedee how they feel about certain tactics, adjusting the intensity as they become more comfortable, or even re-evaluating boundaries if one partner wants to explore deeper or different dynamics. Most importantly, even in the context of bold encouragement, your feedee should always feel empowered to voice concerns or call a halt if things feel overwhelming. It’s important to have a system that allows them to pause the experience immediately if needed.
Respecting these boundaries also means recognizing that moods and preferences can shift. Some days, a feedee may crave the feeling of submission and obedience, but on others, they might need a gentler approach. Being attuned to these changes helps maintain trust and intimacy, ensuring that both of you feel honored and respected. A feeder who respects their feedee’s evolving boundaries demonstrates a caring, responsible dominance that builds excitement without disregarding comfort.
It may seem counterintuitive to discuss and gain permission for these more intense feedism styles, but taking the time to set these foundations doesn’t detract from the excitement of forceful encouragement, it enhances it. Whether it’s secret feeding, humiliation and teasing, or establishing sexual dominance, no dynamic should be a complete surprise to your feedee. When your feedee knows they’re free to explore intense dynamics within agreed-upon boundaries, they’re more likely to feel liberated and fully immersed in the experience. This clarity allows both of you to indulge in bold encouragement with a sense of freedom and mutual respect, making each interaction more fulfilling and enjoyable.
A Balance
Forceful encouragement offers a unique path for feeders and feedees to explore desires that go beyond gentle support, but soft encouragement should always have a place in every feedism relationship. This article outlines some of the softer ways to encourage a feedee. It’s important to find a good balance between care and manipulation, permission and force, and submission and dominance. When approached with trust and understanding, forceful encouragement becomes more than a shared fantasy, it’s a journey that brings both you and your partner closer, indulging in your taboo desires in ways that feel boundless and exhilarating.
For some fun stories centered around these forceful themes, check out A Typical Saturday, Because I Can, Dormant Desires, or Ruined.
