The Art of Encouragement: The ‘Soft’ Way
When it comes to feedism, one of the most crucial elements is helping your feedee build and maintain a bigger appetite. Whether you're working together toward significant weight gain goals or just want to indulge in the joy of feeding, encouraging your partner to eat more requires creativity, patience, and a little bit of artful strategy. Let’s explore some tried-and-true ideas for how to encourage overeating and boost your partner’s hunger for long-term success.
Atmosphere and Comfort
Every feedee is affected by their environment—it can determine whether they feel happy and comfortable enough to indulge, or hesitant and wary of judgment. Learning how to relate to and mollify a feedee’s doubts and anxieties while eating is a skill every feeder should learn and develop.
Create a Relaxing, Indulgent Atmosphere
Making mealtime a relaxed, enjoyable experience is one of the easiest ways to encourage your partner to eat more. When someone is calm and happy, they're more likely to linger over a meal, enjoy themselves, and—of course—eat a bit more than they would otherwise. Set the mood by preparing a comfortable setting with cozy lighting, soft music, and perhaps even some pillows and blankets for extra comfort. You want your feedee to feel at ease, not just with overeating, but with you as well. Create an environment where they’re comfortable, less self-conscious, and sure they won’t feel judged for pigging out or overindulging.
Gentle Encouragement and Positive Reinforcement
Sometimes, all your partner needs is a little nudge to keep eating. Offer gentle encouragement throughout the meal, reminding them how good the food tastes and how well they’re doing. Positive reinforcement can make your partner feel great about their progress and encourage them to keep eating, especially when they start to feel full. Compliments that boost confidence, like “You’re eating so well today,” “good piggy,” or “I’m really proud of you” can go a long way in building their appetite. This also lets your feedee know that their efforts are appreciated. Binging can sometimes be uncomfortable—feedees can become painfully full, out of breath, and exhausted from the effort. Words of affirmation can help them push through or simply feel appreciated for trying. They do it for you, ultimately, at least in part.
Make Meals Social
Food is always more enjoyable when it’s shared, and turning meals into a social, communal moment can encourage your feedee to eat more. Sit down together for meals, offer encouragement, and make the experience fun and relaxed. Compliment the food, engage in light conversation, and make sure your partner feels at ease and supported. Just because they’re the feedee doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy a nice meal, too! Eating alongside them may make them feel more comfortable, like less attention is on them. Rather than making eating a ‘them’ thing, make it a ‘we’ thing, where you both engage and connect over your appreciation for each other, feedism, or anything you have interests in. You are both more than your labels of feedee and feeder.
Food & Drink Strategies
You can’t encourage eating without food! There are endless ways to encourage a feedee to eat more using the power of delicious eats and treats. Even as you develop your skills as a capable and caring feeder, you’ll find that there will always be the need to rely on food as the ultimate motivator. Feedees do love to eat, after all.
Tempt with Irresistible Foods
One of the best ways to stimulate your feedee's appetite is by offering foods that are simply too delicious to refuse. This could mean preparing their favorite dishes, or experimenting with new recipes that feature rich, indulgent flavors and textures. Think cheesy pastas, creamy desserts, buttery pastries, and high-calorie milkshakes. The more irresistible the food, the harder it will be to stop eating. You can experiment with small portions of rich, calorie-dense foods that are easy to eat. Challenge your partner to “just one more bite” that will eventually turn into a whole plate! The key is to make them feel like they’re indulging without realizing how much they’re consuming.
Start with Drinks to Build Hunger
Drinks can be a secret weapon when it comes to stimulating hunger. Offering a milkshake, hot chocolate, or soft drink before or with a meal can “prime” your partner’s appetite and get them in the mood to eat. Creamy, calorie-packed beverages can also make the whole experience feel even more indulgent and satisfying. Once your partner starts sipping, they'll likely be in the mood for even more! Doing a chug or bloat before meals can also stretch out the stomach, making more room for the high-calorie meal that will likely follow. If your feedee drinks alcohol (and is comfortable and willing), having some alongside a meal has been proven to increase hunger and appetite, and postpone levels of satiety, meaning they’ll be able to eat more and for longer, and have a better time doing it!
Incorporate Calorie-Dense Foods
This is somewhat of a no-brainer. Calorie-dense foods are your best friend when it comes to boosting your feedee’s intake. Incorporate high-fat, high-calorie ingredients into everything you prepare. Use extra butter when cooking, add heavy cream to soups and sauces, and always top meals with cheese or a drizzle of olive oil. These ingredients are often undetectable, but even small adjustments can help pack on the pounds over time. They serve as a simple way to significantly increase the calorie content of meals without overwhelming the stomach, which is especially important for sensitive tummies.
Offer Decadent Desserts
Nothing caps off a big meal like an indulgent dessert. Even if your feedee is feeling full after dinner, the allure of a rich chocolate cake or creamy pie might be just what they need to keep eating. Desserts stimulate the pleasure centers of the brain, making overeating feel like a treat rather than a task. Always have dessert ready, even if it’s something simple like cookies or ice cream. Offer it after every meal (not just dinner, but breakfast and lunch too), and don’t forget to pile on the whipped cream or drizzle extra syrup for added calories!
Building Eating Habits
Developing consistent eating habits is essential for helping your feedee pile pounds on steadily. By taking a mindful approach to how meals and snacks are presented, you can make the process feel more natural and enjoyable. Thoughtful pacing, portion sizes, and gentle encouragement can all contribute to building up their appetite and capacity over time.
Encourage Grazing
Sometimes, eating large meals can feel overwhelming, especially if your feedee is not used to overeating. The last thing you want is for them to get sick, particularly if they are not into that sort of thing. Encourage grazing throughout the day by offering small, high-calorie snacks at regular intervals. Grazing can help them get used to consuming more without the pressure of a massive meal. Keep a variety of snacks within reach, from chips and dips to nuts, cheeses, or pastries. You can make grazing more enticing by presenting treats in visually appealing ways and ensure that snacks are always within easy reach. When food is readily available and looks good, your feedee is more likely to indulge—it's hard to resist taking another bite. For more on the importance of snacking, check out this blog post!
Serve Small Portions, Refill Often
Rather than serving one large portion that might feel daunting, start with smaller plates and offer frequent refills. This method encourages overeating because your partner won’t feel overwhelmed by the amount of food in front of them. By the time they’ve finished one small portion, they’ll be more likely to say yes to a second (or third!) serving. Keep the plates coming, but don’t pressure your feedee to finish quickly. Allow them to savor each bite and offer more when they seem ready for another round. A strategy like this also has the potential to boost your partner’s confidence! In the early stages, managing to eat only one plate before feeling full can feel a bit discouraging, and your feedee may feel like they’re disappointing you. Eating many small plates can turn that feeling around, along with those words of affirmation mentioned previously. Over time, as your feedee becomes more accustomed to larger portions, you can increase the size of plates and their servings as well. This makes for a great marker of progress!
Play with Timing
It’s important to find the right balance when it comes to timing meals. Avoid waiting until your feedee is too hungry to eat, as this can lead to discomfort or even skipping meals. Instead, try to offer food when they’re starting to feel peckish, but not overly hungry. This way, they’ll be more open to consuming large amounts without feeling overly full. You can experiment with serving smaller snacks or light meals every couple of hours to keep hunger at bay and prevent overeating from feeling like a chore.
Intimacy to Encourage a Bigger Appetite
In the world of feedism, sex and intimacy play a big role in strengthening the bond between feeder and feedee, and they can be excellent tools to encourage a bigger appetite. When used thoughtfully, intimacy can heighten the pleasure of feeding and turn the act of eating into an even more fulfilling experience that can stimulate your feedee’s desire to overeat and enhance the joy of indulging together.
Feeding as Foreplay
Feeding itself can be an intimate and sensual act, especially when done in a way that connects it with physical pleasure. Hand-feeding your feedee or offering them bites of rich, decadent food can feel like a form of foreplay, building a sense of anticipation and pleasure that translates into a larger appetite. The combination of taste, touch, and intimacy can develop into heightened arousal that encourages your partner to eat more than they normally would. Feed your partner slowly, savoring each bite with them, and combine it with gentle touches or physical closeness. This not only increases the pleasure of eating but also makes them feel more connected to you, creating an irresistible combination of indulgence and affection.
Building a Deeper Connection Through Meals
Equate large, indulgent meals with intimate, one-on-one time. By making mealtime a shared experience that is intertwined with your sexual relationship, you create an emotional bond that makes your feedee feel even more motivated to please you—and themselves—by eating more. Whether it’s a cozy meal at home or a romantic dinner, you can use the closeness of your relationship to help your partner relax and enjoy the process of overeating. This deeper connection strengthens your relationship, turning it into something both sensual and deeply satisfying. Communicate openly about what you'd like to gain from feeding, eating, and physical intimacy, and encourage your feedee to share their feelings as well. This emotional openness makes the experience more fulfilling for both of you.
Praise and Physical Affirmation
Similar to positive reinforcement and encouragement with eating, complimenting your partner on their size, body, or how well they’re gaining physically can build their confidence and encourage them to keep going. These affirmations are even more effective when combined with physical touch, like caressing their belly or gently stroking areas of their body that have become softer or rounder due to weight gain. Use physical affection to draw attention to their progress, like gently massaging their belly while you whisper words of encouragement, or pointing out how much you love their new stretch marks as you count and trace each one. This reinforces the idea that their body’s growth is something to be celebrated and desired, making them more eager to continue eating and gaining.
Post-Meal Intimacy
The period after a large meal can be a great time to reinforce your feedee’s progress through physical closeness. After a particularly indulgent meal, engaging in post-meal intimacy—whether it’s cuddling, massages, or more—helps associate the feeling of fullness with comfort, love, and pleasure. This positive association makes overeating feel more rewarding and encourages your partner to repeat the experience and indulge in future meals.
A Starting Point
Encouraging a bigger appetite is a delicate but rewarding process that requires intuition, patience, and a lot of delicious food. By using some of these strategies, you’ll be able to help your feedee enjoy eating more and make steady progress toward the weight gain goals you’ve set for them, and that they’ve set for themselves. Everything listed above is by no means an exhaustive list (there are many more soft ways and even some…forceful ways as well), but hopefully it gives you a good place to start and the grounds to do what works for you and your feedee. Get creative! With the right approach, overeating can be a pleasurable experience for both of you, leading to bigger meals, bigger appetites, and, of course, bigger gains!
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